How Comparison Blocks You From Food and Body Freedom

When I first committed to taking a new approach to food, exercise, and my body, I knew I wanted to do things differently. I knew that another diet, protocol, cleanse, or shortcut would not bring me the freedom I was seeking.

So, I set out on a new path and changed the way I think and feel about food, my body, and myself, using the tools I now teach my clients. I quickly started to see the life-changing benefits of addressing the root cause of my struggle, doing the deeper work, breaking through limiting beliefs, and aligning my thoughts and actions with my desires. 

But many days, I would wake up feeling empowered and set my intentions to eat, move, and think in a new light, only to hit a crippling roadblock that had the power to throw me into a downward spiral. I would fall down the slippery slope of comparing myself to others.

I would come across someone who appeared to have everything I wanted and almost immediately feel bad about myself. You won’t be surprised that the majority of my comparison, jealousy, and resulting anxiety was generated by the Internet and social media. 

I followed all of my friends and idols who drank green juice, mastered yoga poses, ran marathons, cooked delicious meals, traveled the world, built thriving businesses, spoke eloquently, and just oozed self-love. I know I'm not alone in falling prey to this addiction.

None of my progress mattered when I saw someone else who had "more." I justified my behavior by saying I needed inspiration and to be in-the-know. While we all need inspiration and education, I too often ended up wading around in jealousy, disconnecting from myself, and wasting a ton of time worrying about whether or not I would ever live up to the success of others.

My ego (aka fear-based mind) would pipe up and tell me that there’s no way I was good enough to achieve what they had already accomplished. I would scroll through Instagram and Facebook, read newsletters, blogs, and articles, and wish I was where they were. I obsessed over the filtered and edited versions of their lives and thought to myself, “I’m never going to have that” or “How could I possibly do what they do?”

This energy only detracted me from that which I desired. I knew I had to break the self-destructive habit. I had to learn this lesson: 

Comparison is the voice of the ego, always working to keep you in a place of fear. No matter where you are on your journey, comparing yourself to others will only slow you down.

When you let comparison take over, the ego can easily sneak in and fill your mind with thoughts of negativity and fear, which lead you to believe that you are separate from those around you, those you admire, and everything that you wish for yourself and your relationship with food and your body.

If comparing yourself to others is sucking your energy and slowing you down, consider taking these steps to break the habit, shift your perception, and move forward:

  • Raise your awareness. Become the observer of your thoughts. Notice when your ego leads you to believe your body and relationship with food is lacking. Believing in these thought patterns is what keeps you stuck in the problem. Call them out consistently. Shrink them down. This practice will lead you to a point where you can release your limiting beliefs about food and your body that are holding you back.
  • Catch yourself in the act and change your thoughts. When you notice negative comparing thoughts come up, say to yourself: “I am determined to see this differently.” Choose to shift into positivity. Reach out and compliment that person, and then consciously move on. Instead of looking at the greatness in others and feeling bad about yourself, look at the greatness in others and say to yourself: "The light I see in others is a reflection of the light in me."
  • Act as if you're already there. Notice the qualities and habits of others that attract you, and then act as if they are already a part of your character. Find their confidence in your own actions. Watch what they’re doing and mimic what seems to work for them. This could mean making yourself a beautiful meal, going for a hike, signing up for a new class, or simply changing your attitude. Don't allow yourself to stay stuck in self-pity and negativity. Take action.
  • Lean into love and gratitude. Remember that your connection to yourself and your intuition is your greatest asset. Leaning into self-love and gratitude for what you do have will strengthen this nourishing force inside of you. Comparing yourself to others will keep you separated from it. When you feel jealous or unworthy, an easy first step is to make a list of as many things as you can that you're grateful for right at that moment.

When I stopped comparing myself to others and started training my mind to focus on the positive, that's when it began to grow in my life. My commitment to building a deep loving connection to my highest self began to reflect in my connection to food and my body. This is the deeper work that will lead you to sustainable transformation.

If you’re ready to stop comparing yourself to others, strengthen your connection to your intuition, and finally heal your relationship with food and your body, I would love to connect with you here.

Sending you love and light!